No one owes us. I remember sitting at the hospital next to
my rehabilitating boyfriend senior year of high school for months and when he
woke up angry, my mom said, “he doesn’t owe you, Chelsea.” I looked at her as
if she just spoke for the first time. Shock. Awe. Wonder. Brilliance. He doesn’t
owe me.
The situations may become more petty, but not always easier
when we continue to remind ourselves that no one owes us. I mean this to the
most literal sense…you gave someone $5 yesterday, live as if they don’t owe
you. You spent 5 years in a relationship that left you in a single bedroom
apartment with divided things? Your significant other doesn’t owe you a thing,
not even the missing chair to your dining room set. You’ve moved away from your
home town? New friends and old friends do not owe you a thing. Anyone, I mean
anyone that you’ve done favors, spent time or energy on…these beings do. Not. Owe.
You.
Ok, let me explain my broken record. Do everything you do
because you crave a higher sense of good. When the time comes that you need
something in return, surround yourself with those that also fight fearlessly
for health and well-being and subconsciously bring this to you. Know when it’s
time to leave something behind. May
every reaction be classy and a true projection of you. Remove disgust, hurt,
resentment and guilt rom your emotional repertoire. They tend to spoil things
like pride, flexibility and resilience. Be resilient.
If you begin to live this way, you begin to take control of
your own happiness. You are the master of what you project and what you take
in. I hope you know, I never once mentioned that this was easy. If you are projecting much more than you’re
taking in right now, then celebrate your abilities and fill your cup wherever
you can. And sometimes you have to cry or scream or yell, “SOB!!!!” but…let
these moments be minimal. When we free ourselves of those that “owe” us, we
open the doors to many other things. Sometimes the things we find instead are
most beautiful.
