The challenge of loving challenge.

So you’ve fallen for your best friend’s significant other, or worse, your significant other’s best friend. You’re dwelling on someone that is happily taken. You stare at every empty seat at the back of the bikes that drive by wondering where they could take you. You turn off that song every time you hear the first chord, then you play with just letting it wash you away.

This post is my whiskey on the rocks toast to those that smell out challenge in love like they haven’t craved “normal” or “easy” for years. Cheers, rebels, let’s talk about healing together.

Step 1…does it serve you? Do you leave them feeling like you just opened your arms, flexed your feet and took a heart first dive into bliss? Do you spin out of control? What happens when you hit the ground? May I suggest elbow pads at least…

If you are a steel heart like my girl, Allie then you probably can’t resonate with the above. She loves like a champion and she keeps both feet on the ground. She bounces off assholes like she knows how high she should hold her head and when she hits the ground, she’s ready to run with 5” heels. We’ll come back to her later.

Step 2…that’s really cool that you’ve rolled around in the sand and clinked coronas…or grabbed their hand and ran to the side of the river to jump off the nearest dock…or dined at the top of Vail mountain in the middle of a snowglobe life…or that you’ve looked for shooting stars in Breckenridge. Hold those stories in the highlight reel of your life and when you return, know that you made those choices because they gave you a booster shot of happiness that you happened to manifest with our without the person you are imagining next to you. Maybe you’ve truly landed something great…but if tomorrow the waves have gotten higher, ski season ended and you never even found that shooting star, then let’s take a look at our track history of seeking challenge.

Try on easy. Try on living every day doing only things that make you manifest happiness and before you know it, someone will see a shooting star walking right down the street and my god, it will be you. Take a lesson from Allie and even if he or she races your heart to speeds that warrant a $300 fine, you better keep your head high or direct them to the nearest entrance ramp. Haven’t you listened to my girl, Alanis Morrisette? “Loving someone can actually feel like freedom.” If it doesn’t, you come to me and we will make friends with a travel agent.

I see it every day. I’m guilty myself. If you’re still out there seeking challenge, you will continue to be hit with challenge. Don’t look for boring or rushed commitment or even bouquets of sunflowers. Go look for the sunflowers together. If you want something you’ve never had…then you have to do something you’ve never done.