Girls, this is not a nod to Dove commercials (although I
think the concept is pretty sweet). This is not permission to eat an entire
pizza because you feel like it (but, put a Punch pizza in front of me and I’m
going Jungle Jane on that flat bread). This is a discussion and suggestion for
keeping your chin sky high, even in a room full of perceived perfection.
I know this beautiful red haired girl and she doesn’t know
this, but something she said to me in college has stuck with me. She was
discussing a new boy she had met who lived across country. She confidently and
flatly said, “If he doesn’t want me, SO WHAT! You either do or you don’t!” It
was a simple phrase really, but at the time my heart probably looked like an
ugly version of Rocky Balboa’s beaten face and I thought she sounded like a
revolutionary. I’m so glad I eventually learned to sing her tune. I suggest you
do too.
Just yesterday a guy said to me, “You were right. We shouldn’t
have gone to that instructor’s class. Petite brunettes are my weakness.” He
wasn’t being a self-esteem busting jerk, he was being open because I encourage
full honesty. Had I been sitting across from my 15 year old relationship, I
would have looked down at my half eaten “large plate” fajita and thought… “your
lettuce punishment binge starts tomorrow.” No fucking way, ladies. Finish your
breakfast and listen up.
Guess what. My weakness is Thor like men- not fantasy. I’m
talking blonde pony, blue eyes, toned and tall with an edge of desire to jump
high and fall in love with girls from another planet. I have never once in my
life actually been in love with someone that matches this description (no
offense, lovers). My point here is that what we fall in love with can actually
surprise us. Put me in a coliseum full of petite brunettes and instead of
waving my white flag, I guarantee you I can find something beautiful about each
and every one of them outside of their frame and hair color. Try this the next
time your confidence is compromised, but first remind yourself that your own
brilliance exists and it doesn’t flicker when someone decides they want
something else. You can only be the best version of you, so go for 5 stars.
If you are in a relationship or potential relationship where
open chatter about attraction is supported, then you better not blink when your
partner mentions that hottie that walked by on the way to their morning coffee.
If your boyfriend looks at a girl wearing a bandana for a skirt, try smirking
knowing that you bagged him with your humor alone and please do not resort to
physical violence. If you are like Rihanna and you want to feel like you’re the
only girl in the world, then baby slide your forearm across his card table and
dump your entire deck of cards into your purse; not to be shown until you find
your perfect half whose eyes do not stray (or at least they have mastered the
art of peripheral vision). Those men and women exist, too.
And if right now, for you, what you want or need does not
exist….so what! Some day it will.
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